Cool As A Cucumber.

"Trust your hunches. They're usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level."

Dr. Joyce Brothers

Psychologist and Television Personality

I'm a big believer in following your basic instinct; especially when risking solid ground it is crucial that you check in with yourself before making a decision, "how does this make me feel right now?" along with that I always go through in my mind the various outcomes and how that will make me feel afterwards. This makes it impossible to make a bad decision that morally goes against your core nature. Because you can't argue with your feelings.  And isn't that actually a relief in these days where everybody has something to say although little is said that really matters.

It is a very simple visualization exercise and it works. It is similar to as if you are scared of heights or spiders - you have to expose yourself over and over again, until you don't care anymore. Until you are fine whether it happens or not. This is especially crucial in matters where you are dealing with fear - i.e. fear of losing money, ego, or whatever. Once you have gone through the outcomes in your mind, you won't be caught by surprise, and you can actually prepare for the worst case scenario (emotionally and practically), so that should this happen, you can deal with it cool as a cucumber with limited damage and no need to self-medicate on destructive behaviors to numb out disappointment or regret.

It is very powerful, and it has enabled me to live a life of zero regrets... almost. Yes, there are a few things I'd probably have done differently in my life with regards to my interaction with certain people along my way. These bittersweet memories are all tied to a time where I was addicted to distractions and engaged in numbing behaviors; where I acted on impulses; never thinking twice about feelings, or scars that would occur... I was convinced that every trace could be erased; every hurt undone. But no, some memories last forever. It is what it is, and you just move on. Life is not that big of a deal. However, you always want to prevent leaving scars in other humans - because they may fade, but scars always remain scars... whether you are the victim or the cutter. They never quite vanish.